On Memorial Day, we honor those who died in military service to our country. This weekend we honor those who died in service and those who made it home. It brings to mind the incredible acts of courage and sacrifices for those in our armed services. Reminded me of Jim Stockdale.
I learned about Admiral Stockdale a few years back in Jim Collin's book "Good to Great." Within that book was the real story about Admiral James Stockdale (1923-2005), POW for seven years during the Vietnam war. Attached is a youtube clip, just a couple minutes long, of Jim Collins talking about his time with Admiral Stockdale and learning the Admiral's insights as to how he made it through that time when others did not. I found it profound then as I do now.
Stockdale believed his survival depended upon both his unshaken faith that he would prevail and get through the difficulty, and, maintaining an accurate brutally honest assessment of the realities of the situation. When Collins asked who didn't make it, Stockdale responded, "the optimists." Because their hope was not joined with the realities they faced.
Now we hold hope and optimism for ourselves and our clients. We balance that hope with the realities of the situation and help our families do likewise. We also help them with creating an unshakable faith that they can get through this, even when they may not believe that. The next link is to a very short youtube video created by a Canadian mental and behavioral health provider. He uses a pan of water to illustrate the delicate balance of reality and hope.
At OP, we work every day to have open and honest communication about our harsh reality. We also work to hold on to that unshakable hope that we will get through this, even amid considerable uncertainty. That hope is firmly rooted in Sanctuary commitments of growth, social learning, and safety.
Sanctuary on and on!
Have a safe and happy Memorial Day weekend. If you or a loved one has served our country in the armed forces, thank you for all your service.